Support for Men Experiencing Domestic Abuse
Many people assume domestic abuse services are only for women. At Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Specialist Service (LDASS), we support anyone affected by domestic abuse, regardless of gender, gender identity, sexuality, age, ethnicity, disability, religion, or relationship status.
Domestic Abuse Can Happen to Anyone
Men can experience many forms of domestic abuse, including:
- Controlling or coercive behaviour
- Emotional or psychological abuse
- Physical violence or threats
- Stalking and harassment
- Financial abuse
- Sexual abuse or violence
- So-called honour-based abuse
Abuse can happen in:
- Heterosexual relationships
- Same-sex relationships
- Current or former relationships
- Family relationships
If someone is using fear, intimidation, manipulation, control, or violence against you, you deserve support
You will be listened to
Many men tell us they delayed seeking help because they felt embarrassed, worried they would not be believed, or thought support services were not for them.
We want you to know:
- You are not alone.
- You will be listened to.
- You will be treated with dignity and respect.
- Domestic abuse is never your fault.
- You deserve support.
Even if you are unsure whether what you are experiencing is abuse, please contact us. We can help you make sense of your experiences without judgement or pressure.
Could We Help You?
We provide safe accommodation/refuge and community outreach services across Lincolnshire. If you’re looking for support outside of our area, we can also help you find suitable refuge accommodation and specialist services elsewhere in the country, connecting you with organisations that may be able to support you.
Safe Accommodation/Refuge
Sometimes having a safe place away from abuse is the first step towards recovery. We can offer accommodation for men who need time and space to feel safe, reflect on their experiences, and access the support they need. Our dedicated team will work with you to help you regain confidence, improve your wellbeing, and move forward with your life
Outreach Specialist Domestic Abuse Support
You may be eligible for our specialist adult support programme if you have experienced domestic abuse within the last six months, including:
- Physical abuse, violence, or threatening behaviour
- Emotional or psychological abuse
- Controlling or coercive behaviour
- Stalking
- Financial abuse
- Sexual abuse or violence
- Threats to seriously harm or kill
- Recent separation from an abusive partner, planned separation, or ongoing contact with the abuser
Following an assessment through our Support Hub, you may be offered up to 12 weeks of personalised support from a Specialist Domestic Abuse Practitioner.
Support is tailored to your individual circumstances and goals and may include one-to-one sessions, alongside access to group support and therapeutic programmes if you choose.
Your first session will focus on:
- Understanding your situation
- Identifying your strengths and goals
- Developing a personalised safety plan
- Exploring any support needs for your children
How we can help
Our specialist team can provide support with:
- Safety planning
- Exploring your options
- Reducing risk and increasing safety
- Emotional wellbeing and recovery
- Understanding the dynamics of domestic abuse
- Access to our domestic abuse SAFE Course
- Financial and legal advice
- Accommodation support
- Criminal and civil court processes
- Applying for civil injunctions
- Community support and local services
- Referrals to specialist organisations
- Support for children affected by domestic abuse
- Access to our Children's and Young People's Service where appropriate
Our commitment to you
We will:
- Provide a safe, supportive, and non-judgemental service
- Work with you to improve your safety and wellbeing
- Help you explore your options and create an action plan
- Regularly review support to ensure it meets your needs
- Treat your information confidentially
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens after I'm referred?
Once allocated, a Specialist Domestic Abuse Practitioner will aim to contact you within three working days using the safe contact methods agreed during your assessment.
What is a strengths-based assessment?
This is a personalised approach that focuses on your goals, strengths, skills, and resources, helping you take control of the support you receive.
What if I decide I no longer want support?
All support is voluntary. You can choose to end your involvement with the service at any time.
Will my information be kept confidential?
Yes. Information will only be shared if:
- You give consent
- We are legally required to do so
- We believe there is a serious risk of harm to you or someone else
Where possible, we will explain what information needs to be shared and why.
How often will I have support sessions?
Sessions are usually weekly or fortnightly and can be delivered by telephone or face-to-face, depending on your needs and circumstances.
What if I need support for longer than 12 weeks?
Where additional support is required, we may be able to help through our Recovery Support Programme or connect you with other appropriate services.
Get in Touch
Whether the abuse started recently or has been happening for years, it is never too early or too late to reach out.
No matter who you are, support is available. You do not have to cope alone.
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